Being Single During the Holidays

Being Single During the Holidays

 

About 9 years ago I had to bring my friend Nikki to my company Christmas party because I had no significant other at the time.  One of the wives asked if we were partners.  Nope, just SINGLETONS on Christmas. She looked sympathetic and said she was sorry.  Really? Um, that’s fine.  No need for a SORRY- if I were a lesbian OR because I was single.  Being single can be fun around the holidays. But being alone around the holiday’s sucks.

My suggestion for the Singles out there around the holidays is too HAVE fun. Enjoy the moments. Go ice skating… see a blockbuster. Invite your friends over for an Ugly Sweater Party. Go pick out a tree with some buddies and make a day of decorating it with Christmas music blaring. Look up what’s happening in your city. There are always fun parades and holiday festivals. 

GIVE BACK! See what charities need some help and recruit some friends to help out. Nothing takes your mind off what’s NOT going right in your social life like seeing REAL people with REAL needs.

Organize an Orphan Christmas potluck with your friends, watch Chevy Chase and laugh.

 

I know that Charles Manson is married. Ted Bundy was too.  It's frustrating that serial killers are married and you haven't found someone you want to spoon with on the regular. When I was single I was like- WTF too.  But, I'm sure Ted's wife was a weirdo and I'd put a hun down on Charles Manson's lady being slightly off. It's better being alone, weirdo-free, than a part of a couple that's not working. Plus,the holidays are meant to be enjoyed. ENJOY THEM.

Don’t wait for someone to invite YOU.  Be the ringleader and do something fun for yourself. At In The Loop, the amazing event and activity club for singles we organize activities just like these…an Ugly Sweater Party, charity events, but we are only in Seattle… JOIN! www.intheloopsingles.com -if you live in the Northwest. If you are somewhere else in the world, take the initiative.

 

Happy Holidays!

 

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5 GREAT FIRST DATE IDEAS

Okay, so dinner and a movie is fine. I love the movies and yes, I'm an eater. So I'm down with dinner and a movie, but NOT for a first date.  Some people will spend $250 bucks on U2 tickets for a first date or $500 on Seahawks tickets...whatever...but that's a stretch...

So, if you want to be a bit more creative when going out with someone for the first time, here are a couple ideas;

1. HOMETOWN TOURIST:  Everyone's hometown has something to offer.  It could be a Corvette Museum, it could be The Statue of Liberty...depending on where you live.  My suggestion is take a tour and grab a bite to eat at a joint that is a total cliche for YOUR city.  In Seattle, take the Duck Tour, go to the Pike Place Market and throw a fish or stick some gum on the GUM WALL,  Sit at the first Starbucks...you'll be surprised how many random tours your town has to offer.

2. PAINT & SIP.  Painting classes with VINO provided are popping up everywhere.  Even if you have no artistic ability at all- it's fun and it's interactive.  Ya see, here's a secret- if you have something to do, then there's less of a  possibility of stagnant small talk.  It's way better than a pottery class, which tends to be slow and NEVER turns out to be a Demi Moore/Patrick Swayze thing. So get your paint on.

3. PROGRESSIVE DINNER: This takes a little planning but it's fun and kind of a mini adventure. Basically you are going to 3 restaurants. One for drinks and app's, one for the entree and one for dessert and coffee. It's best when the 3 restaurants are really diverse.  Also, try to make sure the drive between the restaurants is 10 minutes or less.

4. HORSEBACK RIDING: Unless someone gets bucked off, horseback riding is always a winner.  Even if your not a professional rider, it's fun.  You're outside, getting fresh air and it's something people don't do everyday. I would also pack a nice picnic lunch or ask the stable if they can do a little bonfire afterwards, It's the bomb.

5. DIVE BAR KARAOKE:  Most dive bars have a karaoke night. These are always full of colorful patrons and wannabee "American Idol" sad saps.  The food is usually shitty and the singing is shitty. Which makes for a fun night.  WARNING:  If your date is high maintenance- choose from dates 1-4. Not everyone finds Dive Bar Karaoke as entertaining as others.

*And finally, a couple golden nuggets of 1st Date, dating tips.  Do not ask your date out via text or email. Be a big boy (or big girl) and ask them out face to face or over the phone. Remember, who ever asks to other person out, pays. You do the asking, YOU do the paying.  And like the killer Singles Club, In The Loop, Amazing Events & Activities for Singles- it's best to plan something fun -#intheloopsingles. Don't wing it - plan the date. It shows YOU CARE.;-)

13 WORST PICK UP LINES EVER

Years ago some dude approached me in a bar and said, "I bet you'd look good in a pair of rubber pants".  It was such a crappy pick up line. Awful. Odd. Sort of gross. But it did make me chuckle.  All in all, it worked.  I talked to him for about an hour and gave him my number. Then married him 3 years later and had his child... kidding.  It was not my Winston's opening line...

 

But it got me thinking-

 

The bar scene can really suck.  It feels like if you are over 30, sitting at a bar with the college age folks is like being in the middle of a rave and feels weird. A sports bar or cool pub is ok, but you also never know who is single and who is sitting with their girlfriend.  I always say meeting people while doing activities #intheloopsingles  :) is the best.  Join Seattle's awesome activity and travel club, In The Loop it's the best... But hey- it's always good to have a couple pick up lines in your back pocket.  And while you are out there in the dating world, a word of advice- something  like a simple "Hi, my name is ____, works fine. Followed up by, "I bet you'd look good in a pair of rubber pants", is the shizz...

 

Here are a few others to memorize.

1. I must be a snowflake, 'cause I've fallen for you!
2. Do you have a map? 'Cause I just got lost in your eyes. pathetic
3. Hey, let's go make some babies.
4. Wanna hump like bunnies?
5. Are your legs tired? (No why?) Because you've been running through my mind all night.
6. That dress would look great on the floor next to my bed.
7. Is it hot in here, or is it just ME?
8. Somebody better call God, because he is missing an angel.
9. Are you a library book? Because I'd like to check you out.
10. Do you want to see something swell? gag
11. What do you like for breakfast?
12. Come over and sit on my lap, and we'll talk about the first thing that pops up. a classic
13. Can I buy you a drink or do you just want the money?

How To Meet New Singles

Ok so you are single.  Your friends are married.  You work all the time and college is over.  How are you supposed to meet someone descent to date? Maybe have a real relationship with?  Speed Dating sucks. It's embarrassing and the ratio between guys and girls is always WAY OFF.  Online dating sucks because you don't know who you are really talking to.  Even the nicest, sweetest person puts up amazing photo shopped pictures of themselves and honestly, emails and texts are lost in translation.You can't tell of someone has sexy confidence, or a great dry wit via text.

I say, put yourself out there! You spend time and energy on your education, your job, your friends, your physical health...why not your relationships or your "romantic" health. Mr. Right does not know where you live.  Ms. Right doesn't work where YOU work or you would have already met her.

Meeting new people FACE to FACE is the key. Start dating! Network with them.  Grow your circle.  Joining an activities club like Seattle's In The Loop, Amazing Events & Activities for Singles is a really smart way to get yourself out there mingling, networking and having fun.  Meet other like minded singles, who care enough about meeting someone that they took the time to join a singles club. And get to KNOW them. Not just their beautifully photo shopped selfies.

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